Upgrade yourself

Oh Geez, there goes my little activity I had here. Well, I’ve been in Barcelona for two weeks and when I got back home my everyday life literally descended upon me. And to be honest I have so many other things going on, I won’t have much time for this blog anyway. But I’m not going to abandon the blog, I just wont put things up frequently.
However, I have a new post for everyone who, for some reason, ended up here reading this. I don’t know why you’re here and how you found that little Blog in the great sea of WordPress. But with this little piece of work here I want to encourage you to something. For a little time I want to compare you to an App. It doesn’t matter if the App is for Android or IOS, if it’s a game or for YouTube or Facebook.
So, once upon a time our little App was developed and published for the world. At the beginning the App was lacking and had some glitches. It would freeze a lot and the design wasn’t the best. But what does happen once in a while, or maybe even every month? The App Store or GooglePlay announced an Update for our little App. Great! Some of the glitches disappeared and the Design got way better, but it still had it’s faults. Sometimes an Update does reduce one mistake but a new one follows right behind. For example the App gets a new awesome feature but it doesn’t work properly or something else starts lacking because of it. There are all kinds of updates and in general it makes the App better and sometimes it makes it a little worse. But imagine there were no Updates and the App would always stay like this without changing at all? It is crucial that an App is developing. And now we come back to you.
You may ask yourself why the friggin’ hack that weird author compared you to an App. It is important for an App to develop and to be upgraded, but what about you and your life?I personally think that we all have to strive for becoming our “better selfs”. Even our bodies have to develop and grow up. You also have lacks and faults, but don’t get stuck there. Move on and develop yourself. Of course, you’re only human and you can’t be perfect and maybe you learn to get better in some points but after some years you seem to get new habits and faults. But don’t give up and move and become the “person you want to be”. It’s better to walk a way full with sticks and stones than not walking at all.

So get an update of your personal “AppStore” and upgrade yourself!

Coffee Brand „Characters“ – The pride benefactor

I have been in Greece for two weeks (that’s why I haven’t been active that time. Well, I haven’t really been much active in the first place XP) and I spent most of the time reading and playing games. The best book I read there (and one of the best I ever read in my life) was Pride and Prejudice. I have seen the movie with Keira Knightley before, but the novel really did raise up my love for this piece of work. And one of the most interesting characters is Mr. Darcy. This post will be about him and it isn’t only the second real post in this new made blog of mine, it’ll also be the start of my first series which is called Coffee Brand „Characters“.
In this series I will analyze all kinds of characters, from novels, Animes, Games, etc. that inspired me and impacted my life in some way. In advance I want to apologize for mistakes or bad grammar. I try my best. No hate pleeeeaaaaase X3. I’m actually open to improvements and corrections. Anyway, let’s start with our pride benefactor.

Right in the beginning the novel wants to assure us, that Mr. Darcy is the worst person in the entire world. Well, that is mainly the view of Elizabeth Bennet, but it is mentioned that other people in his environment do not sympathize with him, some more some less. He is described as arrogant, apathetic and unfriendly and the description ends with.

“He was the proudest, most disagreeable man in the world, and every body hoped that he would never come there again.“

As a contrast a certain Mr. Wickham appeared later in the story who was very friendly and charming and instantly got the sympathy of everyone. From here on I’ll mention several things of the book, so be aware of SPOILERS!
Elizabeth and Wickham became good friends and he opend up to her and told her his past and his connection with Mr. Darcy, or at least ‘his’ side of it. Wickham’s father was the steward of Mr. Darcy’s father. After the steward died, the old Mr Darcy adopted Wickham in and loved him like his own son and it was promised that Wickham, as soon as he grew up, would become a priest and get a church, but after the old Darcy’s death the younger one refused it. So Wickham chose the become a soldier since he didn’t had any better job perspectives. (I’m sorry if this part is too vague or rough, but I don’t know how to describe it better.)
After hearing this, Lizzy’s hate seemed to increase rapidly. Mr. Darcy wasn’t only obnoxious as hell, he even was a ruthless monster! Later, when Darcy asked for her hand in marriage, she told him boldly her opinion of him. Of course, he was angry and stuff but to proof her otherwise, he wrote her a letter that describes that topic (and also the fact that he more or less separated his friend Mr. Bingley and Lizzy’s older sister Jane, but I have to describe half of the book if I’d explain that too.) After reading the letter, the young woman’s opinion about him changed. Mr. Wickham was actually a big liar and he wasted a lot of money with gambling. Darcy’s money! But Darcy didn’t made a fuss about it and always secretly paid the debts. Wickham also told Darcy that he didn’t want to become a cleric but to go to London and study law. As you can guess instead of studying he spent his time there with amusing himself and making even more debts. After all the money was spent, he went back to Darcy and said he still wanted the church. As we know, Darcy refused, which is now comprehensible. Wickham got angry, seduced Darcy’s little sister Georgina who was only 15 years old back there and wanted to elope with her, which got prevented fortunately. (Again, I apologize for possible vagueness. It’d be the best if you’d read the book yourself XP.)

Ok, so Mr. Darcy isn’t as bad as it seems in the beginning. In Germany we call that having “a rough cover, but a soft core”. Even though he is quite arrogant and pride, he has a good heart and after Elizabeth told him all of his bad points, he tried his best to change to a better person. Because, when Elizabeth visited Pemberley, Darcy’s home, with her aunt and uncle and accidentally bumped into him, he showed himself from his best side. And even though he complained about the bad manner and insufficient  connections of Elizabeth’s family before, he wanted to befriend her aunt and uncle. His good character got more revealed, when Wickham and Elizabeth’s little sister Lydia eloped together. Darcy searched for them on his own, paid all of the remaining debts as well as the whole wedding and whatever else it took. This is quite remarkable, even he ‘only’ did it because of his love for her. It was also mentioned, that Darcy took care of the poor and treated his servants very respectable and nicely. He really reminds me of a quote of Thoru Honda from Fruits Basket. (I even succeeded to make a connection between Pride and Prejudice and a Manga!)

“My mom told me, it’s better to trust people than to doubt them. She said that people aren’t born with kind hearts. When we’re born, all we have are desires for food and material things. Selfish instincts, I guess. But she said that kindness is something that grows inside of each person’s body, but it’s up to us to nurture that kindness in our hearts. That’s why kindness is different for every person … It’s not always easy to see the good in people. In some people, you might even doubt that it’s there at all. But if you can somehow, find a way to believe…sometimes that’s all it takes to help someone, to give them the strength to find the good in themselves.”

Mr. Darcy is a person who’s kindness can easily be doubted or is even invisible at first sight. But that doesn’t change the fact that he is kind. Just as Thoru says, everyone has a different heart and with that a different kind of kindness. So we shouldn’t easily judge, like Elizabeth did, because we can’t look into peoples hearts and pasts.Darcy had a reason why he became the way he is.

“I have been a selfish being all my life, in practice, though not in principle. As a child I was taught what was right, but I was not taught to correct my temper. I was given good principles, but left to follow them in pride and conceit. Unfortunately an only son (for many years an only child), I was spoilt by my parents, who, though good themselves (my father, particularly, all that was benevolent and amiable), allowed, encouraged, almost taught me to be selfish and overbearing; to care for none beyond my own family circle; to think meanly of all the rest of the world; to wish at least to think meanly of their sense and worth compared with my own. Such I was, from eight to eight and twenty; and such I might still have been but for you, dearest, loveliest Elizabeth! What do I not owe you! You taught me a lesson, hard indeed at first, but most advantageous. By you, I was properly humbled. I came to you without a doubt of my reception. You shewed me how insufficient were all my pretensions to please a woman worthy of being pleased “

I think the arrogant pride and the kind-hearted gentleness is a nice and very interesting contrast within Darcy’s character. That’s probably why I like him so much. (And NO, not because I dote on him or see him as a dream man as other girls do. Actually, he wouldn’t really be my type XD.) I also really like characters that change for good or become wiser through the story and Darcy really accomplished that. He and the story itself taught me that one shouldn’t be misled by one’s Pride and Prejudice and that there is more behind someones behavior and actions as it seems.

Lost in Translation: Charlotte’s Cultural Differences

With the recent episode of Charlotte, a point was brought to my attention that reminded me just how much Westerners miss out on things related to Japanese culture. While I have a different post I wanted to write, it in fact connects to this. When I previously described things lost in translation, I also mentioned […]

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Christianime: Love Thy Characters

This article is very good *.*

UEM!

As much as Christianity can be a divided faith in places, there’s little disagreement over the tenet of ‘love thy neighbour’, the second greatest commandment handed down by Christ. We love others to show further love of God. Trouble is, we have a tendency to put ourselves first, and sins of greed, lust, envy and the like work against our love of others.

It’s the Christian’s constant goal to be improving the ways they put other people first in unconditional love and humility. But shouldn’t we applying that love to fictional characters too? A better question: why wouldn’t we?

Something I keep running into when reading comments about Charlotte, Key’s currently-airing show about pubescent superpowers, are complaints that some of the characters are ‘annoying’. Many get put off by Tomori’s temperamental personality, abusing one person while acting calm or even cute and cuddly to the next (or, in some cases, the same person). A lot of people also…

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Christianime: Can I Trust You?

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If you walked up to a friend and ask them ‘Do you trust me?’, they’d hopefully say yes. Trust is the maker and breaker of most relationships. While this sounds natural, however, relying on other people isn’t something we’re commanded or advised to do as Christians. I was surprised when I first realised that the Bible even appears to advocate against trusting others for support. With this in mind, how should a Christian go about making friends? Where should we place our trust if not in people around us?

It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in humans. It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in princes. -Psalm 118:8-9

Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord.” – Jeremiah 17:5

A classic theme of…

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Current Wallpaper

Right now I have this excellent piece of work as my wallpaper. I mean, just look how freakin amazing it is. I love everything about this picture: The glowing blue colors, the perspective and the drawing style looks exactly like the one form the Anime. The first time I saw it on Google I actually thought this was […]

The relief of forgiveness

Sooooooo, this is my very first post on this blog. I apologize in advance if there are any grammer mistakes. I’m not a native speaker so please forgive me!

Around a two years ago my best friend and me were asked to make a devotion for our youth meeting. A few days after that I watched Kokoro Connect. I was pretty much at the end of it with the case of Iori and her stepfather (I can’t remember what episode it was). The whole Anime was already amazing but this episode was gold and I had one of these moments where God spoke to me through Anime. To be exactly, it was that sentence of Iori:” I don’t want to be stuck in the past by holding a grudge in me and when I forgive him I can move on.” (I translated that from the German SUB, so the English one could be a little different.) For me it holds a deep truth about forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a great topic in Christianity. Forgive because God forgave you. When I was young I was a little skeptic about this. Not that I thought that forgiving someone is wrong or bad, but the explanation “God forgave you so you have forgive others” was not enough for me.

Later on, someone told me that it is important to forgive others because if I’d do something bad I also would like to have a second chance. That was a pretty good explanation actually. But when I watched Kokoro Connect I understood that there is much more behind it!
Forgiveness isn’t only good for the one who is forgiven, but also for the one who forgives! When I realized that I sat awestruck on my chair in front of my computer. This was the final answer to my skeptical view of unconditional forgiveness. If you are not able to forgive you are, in some way, stuck in the past and therefore you can’t really move forward. It can influence your decisions, the mood you have all day and your expectations of life. But if you forgive you can close that episode of your past and finally and completely move on.

Just as Iori who forgave her violent stepfather and was able to move on. (If you want to know more, watch the Anime :3)